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Q & A: Anger Management: How to control anger?
 
QUESTION 1:

Out of Kam (lust), Krodh (anger), Lobh and Moha (attachment), I feel that my Krodh (anger) is biggest obstacle in my spiritual journey. When I was in school I used to get angry once in 2-3 years. When I was in job I used to get angry once in 2-3 months. But now I am doing business and my intensity and frequency of getting angry has increased. When I get angry I feel all my accumulated positive energy (during meditation) has drained out. Whether this actually happens or not, I do not know. But I feel like this. For 2-3 days I am not able to concentrate during meditation after I get angry. In my personal life, I am able to control anger to some extent but at work place I am not able to do so. If you suggest me something to control on my anger I will be grateful to you.

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QUESTION 2:

I am 21, married recently. Can you tell me how to control anger because I have tried many ways to control my anger. When I and my husband fight but I can’t control..... I dont know how to react at which situation......plzzzz tell me how can I control my anger because in this anger I feel like I will do something with my life plzzz.


Pratiksha & Manasi (Name changed), india

For every type of Anger - Bhakti Yoga is the only answer I have. Swami Bhakti is the only medicine I have for the decease called human life with ego and emotions

You mentioned: "When I get angry I feel all my accumulated positive energy (during meditation) has drained out. Whether this actually happens or not, I do not know."

My view:

Yes, it does happen so. Spiritual journey is just like game of snake and ladder that lasts for several lives until the final liberation (Self-Realization) comes. The snakes of emotions, attachments, ownership, desires and ego (collectively called Maya) will bring you down to the lower level. Efforts of Viveka (discrimination & wisdom) and Vairagya (dispassion, indifference, non¬attachment) will take you up the ladder. Victory (Moksha) will come only when you can successfully bypass all the snakes on the road. There are millions of them scattered on the path of spirituality…believe me!

“Without dispassion or nonattachment or indifference to sensual enjoyments no spiritual progress is possible. The desire to attain knowledge of the Self will dawn only in the person who is free from desires, who has a pure mind, and who is quite disgusted with this worldly life. Such a man only is competent to hear, meditate and attain Brahman, jnana or knowledge of Brahman. When the knowledge of the Self dawns, ignorance, which is the seed for bondage and the cause of karma is totally eradicated and the aspirant attains immortality and eternal bliss” - Swami Sivananda.

Keep trying, One step at a time. You will succeed in winning over that anger one day. There are many more enemies waiting for you on the spiritual path (even after your overcome that anger). Spirituality is the most difficult and treacherous path of all. 99% of people give up. Only one in thousands continues on this path (called seeker). Only one in millions succeeds (called Jivanmukta). Jivanmukta comes back in the form of a Guru to guide those (seekers) who have lost on the way.

You may or may not see it, but the Divine grace is with you as long as you are trying! One day you will start seeing his existence. From that point on your path will be much easier. Till that time…You must try.. Or give up and you will come back on the same path one day.

The game of ladder and snake will continue! Eternally until the realization comes!!!

Good luck!!!

Thank you.
Mahendra Joshi

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